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Book Details:

Book Title: The Art of Taking It Easy by Dr. Brian King
Category:  Adult Non-Fiction (18+)
Genre:  Literary/Self-Help/Humor
Publisher:  Apollo Publishers
Release date:  October 2019
Content Rating: PG-13+


Book Description:

Psychologist and Comedian King explores the science behind stress in this witty, informed guide. The author uses a bevy of running jokes and punch lines to enliven technical explanations for how and why people experience stress. His metaphors of coming across a bear in the wild as well as being stuck in traffic are also used to great effect to explain a variety of stress responses, such as perceiving a threat and feelings of powerlessness. Reframing thoughts plays a large role in King’s advice: Stress is simply a reaction to a perception of threat being able to consciously redirect choices made by other areas of the brain is the key to living a less stressful existence. He also provides breathing exercises, plants for painting physical health and useful advice for setting attainable goals. King’s enjoyable guide to living with less will be of help to any anxious reader.

Book Excerpt:

Having Goals And Making Plans (pages 87 – 90) 

Art of Taking It Easy: How To Cope With Bears, Traffic, And The Rest Of Life’s Stressors

 

By Dr. Brian King

 

As long as I can remember, I have always been less affected by stress than those around me. I remember keeping calm in cars full of screaming kids, not getting worked up over setbacks, and just keeping my cool in situations that others seemed to lose it. I remember first learning the definition of “lackadaisical” when a teacher used it to describe my apparent lack of worry about something that was most likely, really, really important. For what it was worth, I always seemed to share my outlook with others whenever possible.

For example, when I was in college at the University of Texas at Austin I went to the campus store to buy a new computer. Upon learning my name, the student technician that was assisting me said “Brian King? I once worked with a guy named Brian King.” We figured out that at one point a few years earlier, we were both working at the same Taco Bell location. I didn’t remember him, but he clearly knew who I was.

Have you ever worked fast food? I spent my first few years out of high school working wherever I could. I stuffed tacos and burritos, flipped and flame-broiled burgers, I even cooked and delivered pizzas. Generally speaking, fast food can be extremely stressful. The pace is relentless, there is almost always a line of customers inside the store and in drive- through and all expect fast service. When things slowed down, management pressured us to look busy even if we weren’t. It was not unusual for me to be pushing a broom across a perfectly clean floor because there was literally nothing else to do. Not to mention that all of this activity was typically carried out in a steamy hot kitchen while wearing some form of polyester uniform. I made $3.35 an hour and was grateful for it. Not a lot of doors swing wide open for high school dropouts. I worked with an interesting assortment of retirees, ex- convicts, current convicts on work release, or general unemployables and occasionally there was a high school or college student. The computer technician was one of those students.

As he was going over the details of my new computer, the technician told me that the reason he remembered my name was because of something I had said to him. One day, during a particularly tough shift he was feeling a bit overwhelmed balancing work with school. Apparently, I said something like “Don’t worry about it, it is just Taco Bell” and reminded him to keep his eyes on the bigger picture, like that sweet student technician job waiting for him in the near future. Honestly, I have no idea what I said to him after “it’s just Taco Bell” but whatever I said worked and stuck in this guys head long enough that he thanked me for my advice years later.

Yeah, those jobs were stressful. School was stressful. Hell, life was stressful. At one point during this period of my life, I was essentially homeless. I slept bottom bunk with my best friend above me at his family’s trailer in the country. The few belongings I had were stored in another friend’s garage. I worked a series of low-wage jobs and

took classes at the community college, but I never let it get to me. I find it funny that when I meet people now, they know me as an educated comedian/speaker with a loving partner and an incredible kid. When I talk about handling stress, it’s because I have handled some stress.

This is how resilient people approach life, and the problems they encounter they see their problems or adverse events as temporary and or solvable. That was definitely the case for me in my early college years, I felt that my situation was temporary and under control. And it WAS!


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About the Author:

DR. BRIAN KING trained as a neuroscientist and psychologist and for the past decade has traveled the world as a comedian and public speaker. By day he conducts seminars, attended by thousands of people each year around the US and internationally, on positive psychology, the health benefits of humor, and stress management. By night he practices what he teaches in comedy clubs, and is the founder and producer of the highly reviewed Wharf Room comedy show in San Francisco. Dr. Brian holds a bachelor’s degree from the University of Texas, a master’s degree from the University of New Orleans, and a PhD in neuroscience from Bowling Green State University. Hailing from New York and living in dozens of cities throughout the US as the child of a military family, today spends his life on the road with his partner, Sarah, and their young daughter.
 

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Fist Full Of Love by Om SwamiFistful Of Love by Om Swami

Publisher: Black Lotus  (Sept. 24, 2015)
Category: Humor & Entertainment, Self Help, Psychology, Spiritual, & Motivational
Tour dates: Aug-Oct, 2017
ISBN: 978- 0994002778
Available in Print & ebook, 212 pages
A Fistful Of Love

A man was sitting with his friends in a local inn. After a couple of drinks, he asked his friends, “Do you love me?” “Of course, we do,” they replied. “So do you know what I need?” No one answered. “If you don’t know what I need then how can you say you love me?” To love and to be loved is the most basic human need. No wonder we are attracted to people who give us attention, care about us, and love us. Yet, love also remains the greatest challenge in most relationships. Why?

A Fistful of Love is a collection of insightful, thought-provoking nuggets of wisdom appreciated by millions around the world. This book is full of humor and narratives most beautifully woven into learnings of life that will make you stop and think.

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“This is a strong novel about love and hope and really gives you the tools you need to improve your outlook on life and relationships. I liked the way that this was set up, the writing style was well done and easy to follow.  There were many lighthearted and comedic things thrown in that keeps this novel light and spirited.”-Momma G, My Reading Addiction

“Om Swami’s voice is clear and true. He offers sage wisdom in easy to understand language. Knowing he is a younger monk with a contemporary background makes him very relatable.”- KerryPhilo, Amazon Reviewer

“The book is not only a delight and joy to read, but also so insightful and enlightening. Strongly recommend this beautiful book written in such an easy and clear style.”-Amazon Reviewer

“Precious words of wisdom narrated in a pleasant lighthearted way that inspires both mind and soul. The words of wisdom especially on love and relationship are truly indispensable.”-Rose, Amazon Reviewer

About Om Swami

Om Swami is a monk who lives in a remote place in the Himalayan foothills. He has a bachelor degree in business and an MBA from Sydney, Australia. Swami served in executive roles in large corporations around the world. He founded and led a profitable software company with offices in San Francisco, New York, Toronto, London, Sydney and India.

Om Swami completely renounced his business interests to pursue a more spiritual life. He is the bestselling author of Kundalini: An Untold Story, A Fistful of Love and If Truth Be Told: A Monk’s Memoir.

His blog omswami.com is read by millions all over the world.

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Excerpt  – Harmony in a Relationship

Both positive and negative emotions are like mushrooms, they grow rather rapidly.

The setting was an elementary school. The Maths teacher approached a student famous for his love for mangoes. He looked at the young child and said, “If I give you an apple, and then another apple, followed by one more, how many apples will you have?” The child started to count on the tip of his fingers, stared at the empty space for a few seconds, looked up to exchange a glance with the tall teacher and replied thoughtfully, “Four.” The teacher was appalled. It was a simple question. He knew the child was capable of giving the right answer. He meant well.

So he repeated his question. “Listen carefully son, if I give you one apple, and one more after that, and yet another one thereafter, how many apples will you have?”

The young student followed the same process as before, stared at the empty space for a little longer this time and replied with a voice withdrawn, but just as confident, “Sir, four.”

The teacher got angry. But soon he remembered the child’s love for mangoes. He thought of a method to draw his attention better towards the problem.

He modified his question and said, “Okay, answer this one. If I give you a mango, one more mango and then one more, how many mangoes will you have?”

An innocent smile surfaced on the child’s face for he was reminded of mangoes. His little thumb hopped on the tips of his pink fingers as he calculated. Raising his eyes to look at his teacher, he said, “Three.” The teacher was happy. He clearly understood that it was the child’s concentration that was causing all the trouble. Now that he had his student’s attention, he decided to get the correct answer to the original question.

With much hope he uttered, “Pay close attention now. I want you to give me the right answer. If I give you an apple followed by one more and then another one, how many apples will you have?”

The child imitated his thought process and gestures like before and mumbled, “Four.” The teacher got really angry. He started shouting at the kid, “How can you be so dumb? Why can’t you pay attention? I am asking you a simple question. If I am giving you mangoes they are three, but how is it that you keep replying four when it comes to apples?”

The child trembled at the shouting, his face turned red and tears welled up in his eyes. “Tell me! How can apples be four when mangoes are three? Are you trying to fool me?” The teacher yelled. The child looked down. He had lost the courage to look up or smile. He said softly, “That’s because mommy gave me an apple for lunch today. I already have one apple with me.” The teacher promptly realized the gap in understanding, the difference in perspectives. He could have sought the clarification without getting fried. It was, however, all a little too late. The damage to the child’s mind was already done.

This little story underscores the basis of all the differences of opinions and arguments. It is not always necessary that there is only one truth. More often than not, there can be multiple truths regarding a situation; all such paths that lead to the same destination.

No matter from which direction you draw a radius, it will always originate from or lead you to the center of the circle.

Rather than believing your viewpoint to be the only right perspective, you may want to spend some time grasping the other’s. Understanding is the fundamental ingredient in a harmonious relationship. The damage once done with words or gestures can never be undone. It may heal, but only over a long period of time. I once read somewhere, “Put your mind in gear before you move your mouth.”

An opinion is rarely a simple matter. Behind the formation of an opinion, several subtle and prominent forces are in play. One’s upbringing, experiences, exposure, circumstances, habits, tendencies, proclivities, environment, and situation contribute towards their forming any opinion. Give other person the freedom to have a right to their opinion while you maintain yours.

A man approached me a few days ago and said that he did not believe in God or even in the concept of God. Should he feel bad? Was there anything wrong with it?

I told him that if his belief made him a stronger, better, happier, kinder, a more compassionate human being, it was a good belief. I made him understand that I would rather have a non-believer with a kind heart than a believer with a cruel one.

Truth has never been an absolute entity and there is a child in everyone.

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